Yesterday was my last day as a product manager for Vodafone Ireland. After almost 5 years I’m moving on to start up my own company. Although my reasons are ultimately the same as others who make the switch, I’ve written this post to explain my personal thought process that led to the decision.
I Could Get Hit By A Bus Tomorrow
In many ways this first part needs very little explanation. One day I’ll die. Between now and that day I have a finite amount of living to do, so I had best fill it with the things I love doing. I don’t want to labour this point because plenty of people have said it much better than I can.
I will, however, share one video that made a stronger impact on me than all the rest – Steve Jobs’ speech on how to live before you die. If you haven’t already watched it it’s well worth the 15 mins (or you can read the transcript here.)
I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
75 More Years Of Blogging
The second major philosophy that underpinned my thinking was also inspired by a great video. Dan Buettner’s Ted Talk “How to Live to be 100+” is another worthwhile investment of 15 minutes.
There are lots of great little tips in this video from cultures that live longer and healthier lives than our own – eat less meat, eat small meals, incorporate regular, low intensity, physical activity into your lifestyle etc.
More important than the specifics of how to live longer and healthier is the fact that you plan to. This is the lifestyle equivalent of Warren Buffett’s approach to investing (one of my favourite Buffet quotes is “Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”)
This attitude isn’t easy to maintain because it’s a constant inner struggle. There is a part of your brain – often called the Lizard Brain (see diagram) – that controls what many people would call instinct. It controls some of your most powerful emotions and it’s only concerned with the present. It makes you crave the taste of a cigarette, but it can’t make you feel the devastation of hearing you have lung cancer. It feels the fear of leaving a stable job tomorrow but can’t imagine the elation of having lived a life doing what you love. Emotions feel much weaker in the future tense.
That’s what you and I are up against and that’s why I’ve made the big move. Just because I could die tomorrow doesn’t mean I need to achieve all my goals today, but it does mean each day should be a step in the right direction.
So I quit yesterday, I start working for myself today and I intend to still be here blogging come 2085!
14 Comments
Christian
Great post Peter - whether you feel any of it has been said better elsewhere, and I would suggest it is said brilliantly here, your post is inspiring and offers a nice subtle push for those of us who need it. Big thanks for everything shared here :)
Peter Tanham
Cheers Christian, although I did forget to mention the down side being that I'll no longer be working with cybercom from time to time :)
Mark Coughlan
Huge respect. Welcome to the world of being self-employed. It can be a fucker but it's brilliant when it's not.
What's the plans anyway?
Peter Tanham
Thanks Mark. The initial plan is to take some part time consulting that I've been doing and turn it into something more substantial (the website www.amp.ie is on the way!). And because that will no longer taking up my evenings and weekends it'll hopefully free me up to start on another project (or two).
Darragh
Nice one Peter - you know where I am if I can be of any help at all at all :)
Peter Tanham
Thanks Darragh, I really appreciate it.
Nick McGivney
Welcome. :)
emma
right on! I am a fellow escape-artist and what drives me is the fear I will look back on my life and go "oh, boring". I once went to a lecture by a guy who was given two weeks to live (25 years ago). I always followed what he said: make a list of 10 things you want to do if you only have 3 months to live. And now go and do them. Now. Because you might not have that long...
Rob Cumiskey
Another fellow escape artist, welcome and the very best of luck. You won't regret the move IMHO.
peter donegan
A Chara Peter
well done mate. inspirational. logic and amazing.
love it all.
best wishes
peter
Karina Heavey
Best of luck Peter! I'm sure that you will be a great success!
Eileen
Great stuff Peter, love the Steve Job's talk too..'Stay hungry, stay foolish' Brilliant!
Daragh
Great post. Best of luck with it Peter.